When an affair is ending it will normally end from one person who wants out… and then the other realizes (or is told) that it’s over. Do you get the feeling that he wants out of the affair? What are the signs that he is ending the affair?
i. His emotional interest in you has waned completely. A man who is ending an affair is no longer emotionally vested in you… at least not as fully as he once was. It’s not the naturally waning of emotions but a totally lack of interest in you. No spontaneous touching, hugging, cuddling, kissing or other touchy things. He simply has no need or desire to touch you!
ii. He has no time for you and the things that you care about. A man who is ending the affair will no longer want to be with you or to do those things that would make you happy. He will spend most of his time away from you and you will only see him when he can’t avoid it. He does not want to do anything with or for you. Whatever errands he did for you… or wherever he used to accompany you to… that is now ALL in the past. He does nothing for or with you.
iii. You feel like a stranger in his life. A man who is ending the affair is no longer sharing himself with you so you don’t really know what is happening in his life. Whatever challenges or conquests he is making at work you do not know about. Whatever is happening with his family and friends… you know nothing about. Whatever you do know about him you have gotten to know from other people who did not realize that he is breaking it off with you.
iv. He is back to the dating scene. A man who is no longer interested in you is probably dating again. This can be a problem if you don’t know that he is ending it with you as you will feel like he is betraying you. If you look hard enough you will find the evidence that he is dating again.
A man who is ending an affair without telling you can be a source of much hurt. You may have thought that things between you would eventually get better when in actuality he has no desire to salvage the relationship. He is getting out of the relationship while you are still in the relationship hoping for things to get back to what they used to be.
